Your only choices in childbirth are not between an unnecessary cesarean or an orgasm in a hottub.
When you are preparing for birth, you have so many questions!
Where should I deliver? Which provider do I choose? What’s the best prenatal vitamin? What in the world is ‘perineal massage’ and should I be doing it?
Often times, with all the excitement and learning new things, come anxieties, fear, confusion, and even guilt.
As an experienced doula and childbirth educator, I use my 5+ years of working one-on-one with expectant parents to help create better birth experiences in a hospital setting. My desire to connect parents with up-to-date information and practical, real-life childbirth advice helps foster collaborative, positive relationships between families and care providers so that the entire healthcare team (including Moms!) feels respected, heard, and included in the process.
My wish is that all parents (who want to) are able to journey through pregnancy and childbirth as fully informed individuals. That they feel like they’re the ones in the driver’s seat, and not just a passenger on their journey into parenthood.
When labor time comes, I want you to feel like you are the one in control of your experience, rather than a patient whose baby is “being delivered.”
The difference between “being delivered” and “giving birth” might seem like a play on words more than anything else, but to me it is a philosophy. It’s a vision of women giving birth all around the world who do so feeling respected, informed, and empowered.
Because, when women feel all of these things in childbirth, they often feel these things in other areas of their lives too.
Better birth can lead to better parenting, better relationships, better lifestyles, and better self esteem.
I teach parents what to expect from birth, what their choices are, and how to take control of their birth, without alienating their care provider, or compromising on safety.
When we learn to take control of our birth, we learn to take control of our lives and we begin to make healthier choices for ourselves and our families. This in turn can lead to stronger mothers, stronger families, stronger communities, and a better world.
It’s time to call an end to the “birth wars!”
There is a notion in certain birth communities that hospitals are evil places, intent on stripping women of all power, and forcing intervention after intervention on patients for the sake of power, ego, or money.
It takes about 30 minutes of Googling before most expectant parents start to feel mistrustful and fearful of giving birth in a hospital setting. This often times causes women to go into birth feeling scared, tense, and like they need to go in with fists up ready for punching.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
I’m not going to pretend that all providers or all hospitals are perfect. But we need to stop pretending that birth is always perfect too.
The truth is, birth can be messy, unpredictable, and even dangerous. We are very fortunate to live in a day and age where most of the risks associated with birth are minimized thanks to modern medicine.
But the pressure of ensuring safe outcomes for moms and babies can sometimes come at a price. The price is that often times, women feel like their wishes are not going to be heard, or that their experiences are not going to be honored, or simply have limited choices that they feel would help them deliver peacefully.
I think we can have both.
I believe we are moving into a new era in obstetrics that increases safe, healthy outcomes for moms and babies, while also allowing families to be active participants in their healthcare and have their birth experiences be honored and respected.
It takes knowledge, it takes using your voice, and it take compassion and respect from both sides of the conversation.
Learning what your options are for childbirth and working collaboratively with your care provider, during pregnancy, can make your birth experience happier for you and safer for your baby.
I’ve helped hundreds of parents take a more active role in their birth. I’ve taught childbirth classes and provided professional birth doula services to parents for over five years.
My mission is to help parents create happy memories in childbirth by helping them let go of fear and giving them practical tools that help them make healthy choices for themselves during pregnancy and labor.